Contrary to various cultural notions, there is no set time-frame for grieving. None of us "gets over it" in the one year (or less) of mourning that is often allotted to us. Each family, and every member within it, operates within a unique set of circumstances that will influence both the weight and duration of … Continue reading As Time Goes By
Evening, May 11 - Charles Haddon Spurgeon “Only be thou strong and very courageous.” Joshua 1:7 Our God’s tender love for his servants makes him concerned for the state of their inward feelings. He desires them to be of good courage. Some esteem it a small thing for a believer to be vexed with doubts and … Continue reading Strong
It’s not that sorrow wears off, or grieving gets easier. It’s just that you come to an awareness that sorrow is not getting you anywhere. Slowly, you realize your tears will not bring your child back. The churning rawness begins to level off, not because the pain is less, but because you become too worn … Continue reading Another Day Closer
Morning, January 29th - C.H. Spurgeon “While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.”— 2 Corinthians 4:18 In our Christian pilgrimage it is well, for the most part, to … Continue reading Forward Lies the Crown, Onward is the Goal. – C.H. Spurgeon
"I do not know what the Lord has planned for us. I rest in the fact that He is God and He knows what He is doing. I began this journey without knowing all the twists and turns it may involve. But my Captain knows all. I do not need to fret or peer over … Continue reading Re-Post: Empty Stalls, Empty Beds
You may have met her. That woman. The one who has an incurable health problem and has only months to live. The one whose husband has run off and shamed her. The one with the wayward teen. The one whose child died. You may have met her, that woman who is living your worst nightmare. I … Continue reading That Woman
Today, right this minute, the actual living Hans is not back there in the past. He is not here with me in my present except in my memories. Hans is in my future. Click here to read the whole thing.
Betrayal is the act of violating the trust or confidence of another. It is to be false, faithless, treacherous. To betray is to abandon, desert, deceive; to lead astray; to deliver to an enemy by treachery; to fail or desert especially in time of need; to be unfaithful in guarding; to disappoint the hopes or expectations. … Continue reading Betrayed
"Time loses in the end because at the close of every day I am one day closer to seeing Hans again." Click here to read the full post.
Since Hans left us, attending church is still often difficult for me even though more than twenty months have passed since the crash. But, right from the start, I purposed in my heart that I would not let the enemy of my soul enjoy one iota of victory by getting me to stay at home … Continue reading Why the Grieving Should Go to Church-Even When It Hurts
He emptied my hands of my treasured store, And His covenant love revealed, There was not a wound in my aching heart, But the balm of His breath hath healed. Oh, tender and true was the chastening sore, In wisdom, that taught and tried, Till the soul that He sought was trusting in Him, And … Continue reading After The Frost – Streams in the Desert 09/25
"...Because they are just butterflies, they do not know they have come into the house to die." Click here to read the entire post.
Originally published October 15, 2016 In these past nine months since Hans drove to the highway, I have dreamed of him only once. I had this dream shortly after he left us and it was very brief. In my dream, Sunday worship had just concluded and Hans was standing with a group of men outside … Continue reading New Friends
When adversity comes, let's not dwell on former “better” days and miss the treasures that Christ has for us in seasons of trial. Source: In Pain, Trust His Grace for Today | Revive Our Hearts
Initially, the pain of child loss is so severe, that it is easy to wonder if it is survivable. Many women say they know, if it happened to them, they could not survive it. I want to tell them: Yes, you can. If I can, you can. We just have to. But here is … Continue reading Survival is the Starting Point