As Time Goes By

Contrary to various cultural notions, there is no set time-frame for grieving. None of us "gets over it" in the one year (or less) of mourning that is often allotted to us. Each family, and every member within it, operates within a unique set of circumstances that will influence both the weight and duration of …

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Strong

Evening, May 11  - Charles Haddon Spurgeon “Only be thou strong and very courageous.” Joshua 1:7 Our God’s tender love for his servants makes him concerned for the state of their inward feelings. He desires them to be of good courage. Some esteem it a small thing for a believer to be vexed with doubts and …

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Another Day Closer

It’s not that sorrow wears off, or grieving gets easier.  It’s just that you come to an awareness that sorrow is not getting you anywhere. Slowly, you realize your tears will not bring your child back.  The churning rawness begins to level off, not because the pain is less, but because you become too worn …

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The Death of Children | George Mylne, 1871

Have you lost a child? Whether son or daughter, infant or of riper years, it is much the same-in any case, a portion of yourself is gone. How sharp the visitation! How short its work! The grave has opened and has closed again; yet closed it not before it received its tenant-until in its yawning …

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Forward Lies the Crown, Onward is the Goal. – C.H. Spurgeon

Morning, January 29th - C.H. Spurgeon “While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.”— 2 Corinthians 4:18 In our Christian pilgrimage it is well, for the most part, to …

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Re-Post: Empty Stalls, Empty Beds

"I do not know what the Lord has planned for us.  I rest in the fact that He is God and He knows what He is doing.  I began this journey without knowing all the twists and turns it may involve.  But my Captain knows all.  I do not need to fret or peer over …

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That Woman

You may have met her. That woman. The one who has an incurable health problem and has only months to live. The one whose husband has run off and shamed her. The one with the wayward teen. The one whose child died. You may have met her, that woman who is living your worst nightmare. I …

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Betrayed

Betrayal is the act of violating the trust or confidence of another. It is to be false, faithless, treacherous. To betray is to abandon, desert, deceive; to lead astray; to deliver to an enemy by treachery; to fail or desert especially in time of need; to be unfaithful in guarding; to disappoint the hopes or expectations. …

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Why the Grieving Should Go to Church-Even When It Hurts

Since Hans left us, attending church is still often difficult for me even though more than twenty months have passed since the crash. But, right from the start, I purposed in my heart that I would not let the enemy of my soul enjoy one iota of victory by getting me to stay at home …

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After The Frost – Streams in the Desert 09/25

He emptied my hands of my treasured store, And His covenant love revealed, There was not a wound in my aching heart, But the balm of His breath hath healed. Oh, tender and true was the chastening sore, In wisdom, that taught and tried, Till the soul that He sought was trusting in Him, And …

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New Friends

Originally published October 15, 2016 In these past nine months since Hans drove to the highway, I have dreamed of him only once.  I had this dream shortly after he left us and it was very brief. In my dream, Sunday worship had just concluded and Hans was standing with a group of men outside …

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