Trusting in God

Reasoned Cases For Christ

Have you ever wondered why God places such importance on us trusting Him or having faith in Him? If someone asked you if Adam and Eve believed in God, I’m thinking the answer you’d give them would be “Yes”, because God’s Word tells us that Adam and Eve heard God walking in the garden in the cool of the day and they hid from Him (Genesis 3:8 NASB). So believing in God wasn’t the problem. Trusting God’s guidance over their own reasoning was.

And as we read through the Bible, have you noticed how having faith in God or trusting His Word, is elevated to a place of paramount importance? Consider Abram in Genesis 15:6 NASB, which states “Then he believed in the Lord; and He credited it to him as righteousness.” “Believing in” goes beyond acknowledgement, it moves into the realm of placing one’s confidence and…

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Pray Believing

The number one question I see among loss parents is “Why didn’t God answer my prayer?” This must-read post by Karen Harmening addresses this very important topic. Thank you, Karen for your gracious and careful look at this sensitive issue.

Listening to Him

“Truly I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says is going to happen, it will be [granted] him.  ‘Therefore I say to you, all things for which you pray and ask, believe that you have received them, and they will be [granted] you'” Mark 11:23-24 [NASB]

I routinely stumble across articles and memes that challenge believers with the idea that if we ask God for anything and believe without doubting that He will grant it, He will.  Name it, claim it, believe it, and you are guaranteed it.  I generally dismiss that notion without any struggle, confident that is not the message of the totality of scripture.

This week, however, I was exposed to it in a different way that made it more difficult to slough off…

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Barnabas Award

Thank you to Matt at for nominating YouCanTrustHim for the Barnabas Award. Matt's blog has something for just about everyone: lessons in ESL, his experiences living with celiac disease (including some good food articles), fictional short stories, and more. So, here we go... You have been chosen for this recognition because of the encouragement …

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Hold My Hand While We Limp to Jerusalem

For the person desiring to comfort a sufferer… “The sufferer says, ‘I know it’s been a long time; I’m sorry. I’m not enjoying the prolonged nature of this trial, but I appreciate your understanding and your willingness to stick with me. Thank you for weeping when I weep. Someday, a time will come when we can rejoice together at the marriage supper of the Lamb. Until that time, please be there for me, keep in contact with me, let me cry on your shoulder, and hold my hand while we limp to Jerusalem.’ -Kim Dunkelberger

Commissioned by Him

NOTE: This post is much longer than any of my other posts. However, for ease of access, I am providing it here at the request of several people. For a printable pdf version, please scroll to the end of the post.

The blessing of Christian fellowship is a wonderful gift! God “comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted” (2 Corinthians 1:3-5). Sometimes though, it is difficult to know how best to offer this comfort even when there is a sincere desire to do so.

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In Heaven, Will You Remember Unsaved Loved Ones?

"Regarding the issue of your loved ones who will not be in Heaven, you need to take God at His Word and trust that when the time comes for you to join Him, He will see to it that you are filled with an eternity’s worth of inexpressible joy." God's wisdom and truth from the …

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The Great Temptation

Beautiful, Leanne. Nothing more I can say.

My Journey Through

“Some day, in years to come, you will be wrestling with the great temptation, or trembling under the great sorrow of your life. But the real struggle is here, now, in these quiet weeks. Now it is being decided whether, in the day of your supreme sorrow or temptation, you shall miserably fail or gloriously conquer. Character cannot be made except by a steady, long continued process.” —Phillips Brooks

I almost don’t need to say another word.  That quote is so full of wisdom, admonition, conviction and fortitude.

I have been struggling under the great temptation and trembling under the great sorrow of my life for 3+ years, now.  Indeed, who would not after losing a beloved child?  My great temptation has been to say, “away with it all” and sit at home, nursing my wounds, angry at God and everyone who has anything to say about death, loss, healing…

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Helping Your Grieving Friend

Karen has written a gracious and very thorough and thoughtful article. It is well worth the time to read all 3000+ words. Thank you, Karen.

Listening to Him

Timewise I’ve really only just begun this painful journey of deep grief, but I’ve already learned a number of significant lessons.  I’m sharing some here both for future reference for myself, and in hopes that they might be helpful to others walking alongside grieving friends.

I dislike the ever popular lists of “15 things you should never say to___________” or “10 things you should always do for_________”.   Those lists consistently strike me as being rooted in egocentrism and entitlement, and lacking grace.  We who are grieving do not get a free pass to be egocentric, entitled or lacking in grace.  We continue to answer to the command to be governed by love and grace, bearing with one another patiently and overlooking offenses.

My intention is not to present a legalistic list of do’s and don’ts regarding grieving people. I am simply sharing some of what I and other grieving…

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The Sanitizing of Grief

Misunderstandings and misinformation regarding grief and the so-called “stages of grief” are a major contributor to the isolation and loneliness that often accompany bereavement. Thank you, Karen Harmening, for clearing things up in this gracious, well-written and informative post.

Listening to Him

“He will swallow up death for all time, And the Lord GOD will wipe tears away from all faces, And He will remove the reproach of His people from all the earth; For the LORD has spoken.  And it will be said in that day, “Behold, this is our God for whom we have waited that He might save us. This is the LORD for whom we have waited; Let us rejoice and be glad in His salvation.”  Isaiah 25:8-9 [NASB]

I’m not working through the stages of grief.  To be frank, I have grown to resent the phrase “the stages of grief” rather deeply.  Let me say it again, I am not working through the stages of grief.   I am missing my child.  I am learning to live life moment by moment, hour by hour, day by day, week by week and now month by month in the…

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What is the Harvest of Tears?

A must-read by Janet Boxx:
There is so much I would like to say, Janet. I wish we could spend a few hours face to face. Maybe I can say just a few things that leap at me from what you have written here today in this beautiful and thought-provoking post.
First, you are the first person I have run into that gets Psalm 127:3. I could never figure out why one abusive mother may get to have six or eight children and a loving God-fearing mother maybe cannot have any. Children are gifts and treasures but they are not trophies for being a good girl. They are HIS reward and belong to HIM.
Second, for me, clinging to/trusting the promises and trusting the Promiser are inseparable. They are one and the same. The Promiser always keeps His promise. The Promiser IS the promise. But wait. He has promised some things I am not sure I want any part of: “In the world you shall have tribulation.” “we must through much tribulation enter into the kingdom of God” “That no man should be moved by these afflictions: for yourselves know that we are appointed thereunto.” So if I trust the promises that make me feel better, I must also accept/be resigned to, or, rather, REJOICE in ALL the promises, knowing, as you said, that our Lord always has our eternal good in view. Always.
Which brings me to my last point. Knowing God is sovereign is one thing. Liking it is another. Knowing God has the power to restrain Satan, and then submitting when He chooses not to restrain him, is another. Understanding God is sovereign, that He, as the King, has the authority and the right to do what He wants in His universe is one thing. But surrendering to this authority, bowing humbly to His will, (even when it gets ugly) while we trust in His wisdom and love, well…that’s Holy Spirit work. I do not think this trusting and surrendering business is something we can choose to do. I believe it is a grace we must pray for. I think this is the key to peace. As long as we kick against what God has allowed or directly caused, or against what He may direct or allow in the future, I do not think peace is possible.
“Unresisting submission” unloads and lightens the heart burdened with with anger, fear, mistrust, resentment, bitterness, self-pity, etc. How blessed it would be to be free of it all!

Boxx Banter

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My friend Melanie recently published a blogpost based upon Psalm 126:5-6, which reads,

5 Those who walk the fields to sow, casting their seed in tears,
will one day tread those same long rows, amazed by what’s appeared.

6 Those who weep as they walk and plant with sighs Will return singing with joy, when they bring home the harvest.

Psalm 126:5-6

In brief, it’s an important discussion about choosing to cling to God in obedient faith instead of the temporal things of this world (including those we love). Follow the link below to read this short post about costly obedience.

Costly Obedience | The Life I Didn’t Choose

Psalm 126:5-6 has long been a verse dear to my heart. It was a promise I could cling to after Cole’s death. I inscribed it across the bottom of every birth announcement mailed when Bethany…

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Grief and Grace:What I Need from Friends and Family

Gracious and practical insight from Melanie DeSimone.


You cannot possibly know that scented soap takes me back to my son’s apartment in an instant.

You weren’t there when I cleaned it for the last time, boxed up the contents under the sink and wiped the beautiful, greasy hand prints off the shower wall.  He had worked on a friend’s car that night, jumped in to clean up and was off.

He never made it home.

So when I come out of the room red-eyed, teary and quiet, please don’t look at me like I’m a freak.

Please don’t corner me and ask, “What’s wrong?”Or worse-please, please, please don’t suggest I should be “over it by now”.

If you were reading a novel or watching a movie, you’d show more grace.

You would nod in understanding as the main character made choices that reflected the pain of his past.  You would find his behavior…

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