Re-Post: Empty Stalls, Empty Beds

"I do not know what the Lord has planned for us.  I rest in the fact that He is God and He knows what He is doing.  I began this journey without knowing all the twists and turns it may involve.  But my Captain knows all.  I do not need to fret or peer over …

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Re-Post: Why Does God Allow Suffering? – Interview with Helen Roseveare (video)

In this interview there is special encouragement for women who have suffered sexual assault, for parents who have experienced child loss (segment three), and for anyone who has endured extreme trauma. Take a break and spend a few minutes with this refreshingly pleasant and amazing woman. Click here to watch video        

Revised Post: Angry At God

Anger is destructive.  It is a nasty weapon in the arsenal of the Destroyer.  How’s it working for you?  Does it not make you unbelievably tired?  Wouldn’t you like to lay it down and walk away?  Wouldn’t you like to replace it with something more productive, something more God-honoring?  Wouldn’t you like to rest? Read …

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Revised Post: Accident or Appointment?

Did God Take Our Son, or Was it an Accident? “No, God does not do evil.  God is good.  But he does direct events here on earth and allows sinful man a lot of freedom to prove his utter hopelessness apart from the Almighty. And sometimes that gets pretty ugly.” Grieving, suffering mother, you could …

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Re-Post: This Evening’s Meditation – C. H. Spurgeon

Every time a believer mounts from this earth to paradise, it is an answer to Christ's prayer...The soul cannot be in both places: the beloved one cannot be with Christ and with you too. Now, which pleader shall win the day? Click here to read the rest.

Re-Post: Thoughts on Psalm 84

I quietly went to our bedroom, closing the door behind me.  And by the bedside, I prayed and calmly lay my son on the altar.  I did not like doing it.  I cannot say my heart was in it...  Click here to read the whole thing.   Save

Why Religion Doesn’t Help

Religion can mean different things to different people.  I do not consider myself to be a religious person.  I am a Christian.  A Believer.  A Bible Believer.  I might even be a Baptist. I go to church every week to worship and hear the Word of God preached. But I would not refer to myself …

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Why? We want to know...why? Yes, there is sin in the world, and death and suffering, and so it will be until Jesus comes back. But why me? we ask. Why my child? The answer to that question is far too complex for us to understand. I do not think, in any loss, the answer …

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2 Thessalonians 2:16-17

Survival is the Starting Point

  Initially, the pain of child loss is so severe, that it is easy to wonder if it is survivable.  Many women say they know, if it happened to them, they could not survive it. I want to tell them:  Yes, you can.  If I can, you can. We just have to. But here is …

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Revised Post: Called

"I do not believe in accidents. If I thought the crash was “just an accident”, a freak chance event, I might just lose myself in despair, in the pointlessness of it.   It would take an impossible amount of faith for me to believe the crash was an accident.  The precision of the timing and logistics …

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God Meant It Unto Good

Jesus answered and said unto him, What I do thou knowest not now; but thou shalt know hereafter.   John 13:7 God's word teaches that a father's duty is to bring up his children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.  A loving father will observe his child carefully and, by God's grace, relentlessly weed …

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Why Didn’t God Answer My Prayer?

A common question that comes up among bereaved parents has to do with prayer.  Specifically, the parent wants to know why, after begging God for the life of her child, the child died anyway.  Or perhaps the child himself prayed to get well or a whole prayer chain of people prayed and still the child …

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