The following chapter was taken from the second-most viewed post on this site. The most often entered search term here, by far, has been some variation of “Should I consult a medium?” We can conclude that many are tempted. Here’s what God has to say about it…
Chapter 35, Detestable to the Lord – Never Ceasing: God’s Faithfulness in Grief
I know. It hurts.
You miss him. You miss your child so terribly much. And the pain. The pain seems more than you can bear another minute. You want to see him, to hear his voice, to know where he is and if he is well and happy. But you cannot. Then someone whispers, Yes, you can.
Mediums, spiritualists, psychics, necromancers, diviners; readers of cards, tea leaves, and stars—who are these people and what do they offer the grieving? Unfortunately, there are many among the bereaved who seek to contact the departed by engaging the services of these occult practitioners. But I will not. Here is why:
- God forbids it.
- I refuse to be exploited by someone who is a fake at best and a channel for demonic entities at worst.
- Nor will I allow someone who engages in this type of wickedness to become part of something as personal and intimate as the loss of our son. I will not have Hans’s name bandied about in this manner. His memory will not be mocked in the spirit world or traded as a commodity for evil in the physical one.
- It would be beyond horrifying to hear a demon counterfeiting the voice of our Hans.
- I will not expose myself to or subject my family to the influence of unclean spirits.
- “Feeling better” after being exploited like this would not help me. Allowing myself to be deceived to obtain false “comfort” is destructive, not healing.
- I should focus on communing with my Father God, the True Comforter, not on trying to get Hans back. Why would I ask a demon for questionable information about Hans when I can have the Truth from Jesus, my Savior, the One Whom Hans is actually with?
- Hans would not want me to.
The argument in favor of engaging the services of a medium usually goes something like this: I felt so much better afterwards. I know I talked to my deceased loved one. The psychic had very accurate information. She knew things no one else could know.
Of course she did. That is the point. This is actually worse than being duped by a skillful confidence predator. I would rather be tricked by a sneaky swindler than be in actual contact with a lying demon. You must ask: Where did this inside information come from? Since God forbids this sort of thing, He is not about to give special, private information to people who are profiting by disregarding His Word. So then, from what entity did this information come, if not from God? There is only one other being to consider, and that being’s name is Satan.
Satan does not know everything like God does. But he does know plenty. He is around, and he is looking for people to destroy. That is what Satan does, that is who he is, the Destroyer, and he will use any tool at his disposal. He has no scruples about exploiting and deceiving the crushed heart of a grieving mother. In fact, he delights to do so.
“Whether the phenomena are evidences of a clever trickster, demonic activity, or the staid and serious pronouncement of the scientific community, the Bible calls all of it an abomination. Deuteronomy 18:9-14 says,
When you enter the land which the Lord your God gives you, you shall not learn to imitate the detestable things of those nations. There shall not be found among you anyone who makes his son or his daughter pass through the fire, one who uses divination, one who practices witchcraft, or one who interprets omens, or a sorcerer, or one who casts a spell, or a medium, or a spiritist, or one who calls up the dead. For whoever does these things is detestable to the LORD; and because of these detestable things the LORD your God will drive them out before you. You shall be blameless before the LORD your God. For those nations, which you shall dispossess, listen to those who practice witchcraft and to diviners, but as for you, the LORD your God has not allowed you to do so. (emphasis added)
“If the Old Testament saints were commanded not to seek mediums, spiritists, and the like, it’s even more emphatic that clairvoyance has no place in the life of a Christian. A Christian has a personal relationship with the Father through the Lord Jesus Christ, is indwelt by the Holy Spirit, and can read and discern the mind of God in the Holy Scriptures.” -John MacArthur, Grace to You: https://www.gty.org/library/questions/QA208/does-the-bible-take-a-position-on-clairvoyance-and-parapsychology
I understand you just want confirmation your child is OK. You would give almost anything to have five more minutes with him. Your heart is hurting, and you do not know how you can bear never hearing his voice again. You know of people who have gone to a medium and nothing bad seemed to happen afterwards. But ignoring the explicit command of God is never a good idea.
Please, do not do it!